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Uncomfortable conversations are the price of admission to meaningful relationships

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Hard conversations are called ‘hard conversations’ for a reason. They’re hard. But they’re critical to relationship building. And they’re the price of admission to meaningful relationships. When we shy away from tough conversations, we limit the depth of connection we create (whether it’s with a… Uncomfortable conversations are the price of admission to meaningful relationships

Say this instead of “If you want a job done properly, do it yourself”

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I used to love saying, “if you want a job done properly, do it yourself”. But what that really said was, “I’m a terrible delegator”. And I was. When we first move into management roles, we’re typically bad delegators. We’ve often been promoted because we’re… Say this instead of “If you want a job done properly, do it yourself”

Communication is measured at the listener’s ear, not the speaker’s mouth

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Taking total responsibility means measuring communication at the listener’s ear, not the speaker’s mouth. This is what former Google executive Kim Scott talks about in her book Radical Candor. If we seek to take total responsibility, we must accept that – if someone doesn’t understand something –… Communication is measured at the listener’s ear, not the speaker’s mouth

You can still be a kind manager and…

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You can’t be a kind person and criticise someone, right? And you definitely couldn’t sack them, right? Wrong. You can be a kind manager and still: Take criticising someone as a common example. Some managers criticise people and they are unkind. Some managers criticise people… You can still be a kind manager and…

Hire for attitude. Train for skill.

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The hardest people to manage are those with attitude problems, not capability issues. So why do recruitment processes focus so much on technical fit, rather than cultural fit? I think there are two reasons: What’s the answer? Recruit people through the lens of the matrix… Hire for attitude. Train for skill.

Chasing certainty instead of clarity is a classic mistake (and what to do instead)

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I make this error all the time (most of us do). You’ll probably recognise this scenario: you’re faced with a choice in (even slightly) unfamiliar territory. And getting it wrong feels like it will have some cost or pain (perhaps only minor). What do we… Chasing certainty instead of clarity is a classic mistake (and what to do instead)

Three ways to be more persuasive

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Being influential is a key leadership quality. Making persuasive arguments is critical to leading your team forward. And to managing upwards. What drives influence? There are three things: The first lever takes time. But the better and more consistently we do 2 and 3, the… Three ways to be more persuasive

The firefighting death loop

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Are problems on repeat in your organisation? Is it like a game of whack-a-mole, where you fix one problem, only for another to pop up? This happens when organisations are stuck in a firefighting death loop. Gaps between organisational capabilities (in systems of work, people,… The firefighting death loop

If you’re arranging a meeting with someone, don’t say “I’m flexible”

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It’s a common thing to say when arranging meetings at work, e.g.: “When works for you? I’m flexible.” But it equally applies to organising things with your friends and family. You probably say “I’m flexible” out of consideration for the other person, allowing them to… If you’re arranging a meeting with someone, don’t say “I’m flexible”